tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post4226376302684414526..comments2023-05-10T15:42:37.560+03:00Comments on Just Stuff: ...then he made man.gishungwahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07004963900093206403noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-83570879847770961732007-03-22T07:59:52.166+03:002007-03-22T07:59:52.166+03:00Early Bird I can see gish!Really inspired that arg...Early Bird I can see gish!<br>Really inspired that argument of this guy. I can see his point of view coz as his says it cannot be so complicated to decide on whether to marry a woman I mean it takes us 10 minutes to decide to buy a car, 2 seconds to accept a job offer, 1 mont to move house or buy a plot but then it takes 5 years to asses a woman for marriage?Kirimahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726529257770368907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-36793815885262467902007-03-22T08:20:18.623+03:002007-03-22T08:20:18.623+03:00Kirima, but there have been people who have dated ...Kirima, but there have been people who have dated 7 yeas then married. I think that within the first year of dating or so we should know the direction dont just string me along and then change your mind after dating me forever then a not so young anymore that is crap. why do people take so long to get married or even have a long engagement unless there are valid reasons which i dont deny there gishungwahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07004963900093206403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-4808768191738643572007-03-22T13:03:14.411+03:002007-03-22T13:03:14.411+03:00I have a friend who was in a relationship for clos...I have a friend who was in a relationship for close to 2 years, but was never really sure about the woman. Then after they broke up, he met this woman who he instantly hit it off with, and within 3 months they were engaged, getting married 8 months after they first started going out. He says with her, he knew. There was no doubt. So I definitely see where this writer is coming from. Though the egmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16727529987048093242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-13715750420728375842007-03-22T17:41:03.146+03:002007-03-22T17:41:03.146+03:00Its harsh but true. I see what UnGEM is saying and...Its harsh but true. I see what UnGEM is saying and it hits home. You just know, well that is what i hear. All the best to those who are in the marriage boat!Methuselahhttp://tallb.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-72633771219764827182007-03-22T18:13:14.536+03:002007-03-22T18:13:14.536+03:00i see his point!but as guys have said, theres alwa...i see his point!but as guys have said, theres always the flip side, i guess it all falls down to what he said in the last lines..chics dont be fooled and guys be honest!if a jama is playing relationship kati/karata and you want different then leave!but if he's genuinely not sure, respect that and y'all agree whats the best next step.mama shadyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18029271329854851157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-10072792673754807352007-03-22T20:42:22.656+03:002007-03-22T20:42:22.656+03:00I am totally in agreement with the article.As I sa...I am totally in agreement with the article.<br><br>As I said yesterday, people [esp women] have learnt to settle... a disease I refuse to get!Movie Buffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04185792582756204078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-87400067740006411482007-03-22T22:42:41.811+03:002007-03-22T22:42:41.811+03:00Well all I can say is that people need to put a ti...Well all I can say is that people need to put a time frame once the relationship gets serious. If you have just been kicking it with a dude and dont let him know you have certain expectations as a woman dont be surprised if you are left hanging for a long time because men can handle the same status quo without change.<br>Plus deciding to get married isnt as simple as some women make it out to be,Acolytehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03673179447438729227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-41228650277265667162007-03-23T11:34:47.302+03:002007-03-23T11:34:47.302+03:00What about the young ones like us? It seems like t...What about the young ones like us? It seems like the general rule is that when one enters a relationship, the destination should be defined beforehand + evaluated after every 6 mths or year. But I guess it's kind of hard if people have different ideaologies. Personally, I'll definately want to investigate potential of marriage on a long term basis, so it's easy going friendship kwanzamwasjdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10398203325237099562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-90667419074107782522007-03-23T11:53:36.326+03:002007-03-23T11:53:36.326+03:00Expectations differ with age. With age(hopefully) ...Expectations differ with age. With age(hopefully) one is able to tell what they want out of the relationship. Most people can tell where the relationship is heading after dating for a while. The main issue is this you both define what you expect from the relationship so that you make informed decisions, that sounds easy but the reality is different. <br>For ladies, tell him what you want and donGishhttp://gishungwa.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-63774591635652666362007-03-23T21:56:35.219+03:002007-03-23T21:56:35.219+03:00I am also of the opinion that it will not take 5 y...I am also of the opinion that it will not take 5 years to decide if i want to spend forever with a certain man. I know a chick who has been *dating* a dude for 10 (ten) years. now that is plain nonsense...i think i would rather stay single. 6 months into the relationship i review the whole thing. ukijifanya walenga story za next step, you can take your niceness elsewhere. chicks should open theirChatterlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02079055207430169807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-80664139956592744722007-03-25T23:42:40.008+03:002007-03-25T23:42:40.008+03:00AMEN finaly, the percentage of the peopel who marr...AMEN finaly, the percentage of the peopel who marry after dating for so long is vey low. And i agree with the writer when you are trully serious about the person you know it and wount waste time.Don_quixotehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15398665521624269807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-15583409376704919382007-03-26T18:27:52.754+03:002007-03-26T18:27:52.754+03:00And Let us all say A men! This is great advice, Un...And Let us all say A men! This is great advice, Unfortunately or in this case fortuantely am yet 2 be in a such Long R/shp but I now know better!Klarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00003194375554449590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-76618920957555257292007-03-26T18:52:00.087+03:002007-03-26T18:52:00.087+03:00AMEN. Cant be put in bold other than that.AMEN. Cant be put in bold other than that.Nakeelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13425010379844042952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-86157692107140463692007-03-27T03:50:42.229+03:002007-03-27T03:50:42.229+03:00I totally agree with the point that writter put ac...I totally agree with the point that writter put across, but I have always believed that some things come so naturally, e.g a kiss... If it's genuine it will come so naturally, and it will always wait for the right moment. SO is marriage. I don't think we have to push or rather slow it. I guess it comes naturally at the right time. I don't think there's a specific time frame.<br>Suehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11237328045455287104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-72652805260161414522007-03-28T13:57:55.343+03:002007-03-28T13:57:55.343+03:00AMEN!!!I agree with most...but what am I saying......AMEN!!!<br><br>I agree with most...but what am I saying....I HAVE been in a relationship for 3.5 years, and despite that we didn't get married I don't regret a single moment of that, and I never felt the pressure to get hitched :-)<br><br>:-)Jadekittenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14369356587659669771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-47021859447953974892007-03-29T13:23:37.259+03:002007-03-29T13:23:37.259+03:00Well said!! me i think whether u get married after...Well said!! me i think whether u get married after dating 6 months ama after 3 yrs- still the same thing..you both are in love and luving it (marriage).<br><br>anyway, point is,do it when you're both ready..no pressure in time.<br><br>So now after this ka article..what if jamaas go proposing to their mamas haraka haraka and chiks say- aish..no, too soon! lool wat to do?bettyhttp://twaddlie.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-69175549661383653732007-04-10T15:18:25.266+03:002007-04-10T15:18:25.266+03:00I concur with EGM and Aco. Sometimes you can be wi...I concur with EGM and Aco. Sometimes you can be with a chic but roho safi you just don't see it going anywhere, but you stick in there hoping something might develop. But also, guys usually think about the future when committing to a chic, so sometimes it does take us quite a while to decide that a particular chic is THE ONE. But not that we're stringing them along intentionally. For me Archerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12794327576006878481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-6925950716894685492007-04-18T21:42:26.643+03:002007-04-18T21:42:26.643+03:00This guy's view has definitely enlightened me....This guy's view has definitely enlightened me. I can see how a dude can string the girl along while watching out for someone better (just to have plan B). Women do it too. I think this is one of the worst things to do when you know the other person is really into you but you're not going to make a major commitment. It definitely helps to find out what your partner wants, and if it's Girl next doorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11786858603160127087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4531856625890190179.post-3250998401785385172007-05-07T00:26:30.175+03:002007-05-07T00:26:30.175+03:00from experience i will say....i met a man who knew...from experience i will say....i met a man who knew from the start that he wanted to settle down with me.(but counted 3 months b4 proposing) i was so scared of the fact that i didn't know him but he never gave up-he knew what he was looking for and to this day i admire that about him(he is never in doubt as to what he wants....long story but am now the mother of a lovely baby boy and he is Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com