They dated for a year. On Friday, she sent an SOS and came over. I offered wine and she declined that was strange i know my girl she never turns down liquor. I made her tea instead and got my wine. I asked her how is baba and she laughed then sighed.
She: mamie am pregnant".
Me: Ok, what does baba think about the whole thing?
She: he said "Woman,sort yourself out, am confused"
ME: then?
She: He hasn't called and when i call him he wont answer.
What is wrong with some men,of course you knew when you were stroking that this might happen. Confused, sort myself out? Whatever happened to confessions of undying love and forever. These are the worthless men who give good men a bad name!
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ReplyDeletefor starters yipeee for once i comment as the first person!!!
i totally agree!!!confused about what??was he confused when he was in the act(just to use polite words!!!!!!!
or is there another definition of confused in the male world we ain't aware about!!!!
Really im CONFUSED!
I cringe to think who represents men out there, how do you duck your own flesh and blood, makes my blood boil just thinking about it, step up, is all that i can say, total coward that one! CHINDWE!
ReplyDeleteI will never understand how a man can run way from the responsibility of children that they helped bring forth.
ReplyDeleteWhats there to fear? These type of guys end of giving us a bad name.
I also feel that a lady who gets pregnant in this day and age wants to(Unless of course its rape). What with all the protection available.
What would I know anyway, I am only a Kenyan father.
Total BS I agree but then unfortunately it will keep on happening until ladies start making sure that they don't get knocked up until they have the jamaa locked down.
ReplyDeleteoops!too bad...in this age, people get pregnant like dat yaani?
ReplyDeletemshow thats when the rubber meets the tarmac... lakini how does a chile get PG?? kwani you guys dont jua your biorogy .. now when you make my dad a granda bila mpangos what a brother to do? ...........
ReplyDeleteAnd it will keep happening.
ReplyDeletesort your self out, am confused? What is there to be confused about I wonder...sad, I hope HE sorts himself out!
ReplyDeleteGish pole for your friend dilemma and let me tell you,somehow some men "selectively" get confused at their own convenience.Shame on that dude for not accepting his responsibility. I also do not think the lady as I see some comments irresponsibly got herself pregnant. I bet she probably trusted this dude enough to even have sex without condom. It takes two to make a baby!
ReplyDeleteI think they are both wrong..ok I may not know why the chic got paged lakini sort yourself out! What a reaction!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteANd dudes so you know, those things that women use arent 100% safe....
I think they are both wrong..ok I may not know why the chic got paged lakini sort yourself out! What a reaction!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteANd dudes so you know, those things that women use arent 100% safe....
sort yourself out? that is major BS. If the mama wants the kid, why not. If not, there are many clinics. Just make sure she makes that decision.
ReplyDeleteEish! Shame on that jamaa. Totally
ReplyDeleteOk! I agree a guy can be confused if he's certain age and wasnt thinking beyond his d&%k! And yes people! it can happen with all the protections around! kwani you have never read the percentages on the boxes and stuff? No method for FP is 100% babyproof!
ReplyDeleteBut again Gish, can you direct me to that dudes place, i wanna do a 'jackie chan' on him! Shenzitype kabisa!
bana you guys are too guick to critize the dude.. pengine a jamaa was caught in situation tricky mami... bana most of us would do the same tukijipata kwa situation twisted.. reminds my makendes of one july 2003.. wacha tu i dont sema how life nearly turned around ...so lets not tupa mawes on this my brodah..
ReplyDeleteYes, we never know the situation, but given the information that we have here, the dude bonyezad and skwaleed. It takes two to tango. Contraception is a two way thing. Kwani when the mama was panuaing her thayoz bila rubber she thought what would happen? Both are to blame! But for the dude evading responsibility, utterly, utterly shameless. Ebu give Inexes the jamaa's address he goes to sort him out!
ReplyDeletetypical..i din't even read through it all..i juad he'd hepa..men!!!!!!
ReplyDeletelol@ betty atii you knew what without reading the whole story?
ReplyDeleteboth are equally wrong.maybe just maybe, the dude is indeed confused and maybe that is his normal state- yaani he has always been confused. having a child is for life, she may be better prepared mentally for it (we do not know ages here), the girl may well be confused as well, lakini she doesn't have the same options dude has ( he can walk away, she carries a life)and she is talking to someone (you) about it. where is dude getting his counsell from?
A child has been made, what next.....for the child. Not who is picking up his phone or not. What if he picks up? are you going to make him less confused.
The girl needs to work out how she is going to take care of her baby. The guy may well work through his confusion.............inexes might help him, a slap here and there.
bintyy,am confused too.
ReplyDeleteAegeus, unfortunately he is not the only one.
S&R, men and women do it all the time, no wonder our society is rotten.I think its the uncertainty and the responsibility looks too big so they choose to duck. Women get pregnant even when using contraceptives its not 100%.
Kirima, i agree if you cant handle the consequences keep tour legs on lockdown.
Boyflani, yeah they have sex and get pregnant.
Kip, assuming i didnt want to make my folks grandfolks as yet either. Whats a brother to do, step up and take responsibility.
Nakeel, mamie i hear you, dunno who will help us.
Wambui Jr, i hope they sort themselves out they have a baby coming.
Irena,i keep thinking they both must have entertained the possibility since they were having sex. Now that she is pregnant its her problem whatever happened to "we".
Farmgal,they both need to take responsibility and accept that it has happened.
Phassie,that decision is up to her now that he man has absconded. She is keeping the baby.
M,kabisa.
Inexcess,the man is 32, its ok to be confused at first since it unexpected but after that you need to step up. Will give you his address on chat ;)
Kip,it was unplanned for both why cut slack for the guy who does for the woman. the guy is under fire for absconding.
Archer,xcess had the address. rubber or not this things happen there are no guarantees.
Betty, same script different cast eh!
3TOC, i cant tell where he is getting his advice.the man is 32 and the woman 28. As for my gal her advice is from family & friends. spoke to her and she has decided to keep the baby, she will be ok she has support and all. Its sad that we never learn even form the examples of others it just has to happen to us. Unfortunately this is one man who will to be part of his child's life.
32? Jackie chan will not tosha.. hebu unleash 3ToC on him too.LOL. i thot the dude was in his early 20's! Confused nini? hiyo ni charade tu!
ReplyDeleteI thought the same too maybe he feels he is not yet out of the game. I think better to let him be and move on like he doesnt exist. its easier.
ReplyDeletemen still do that? weak men. But having said that, I don't believe people still get pregnant by accident
ReplyDeletewhy has th chick decided the dude has absconded? maybe a dude is still in that ka phase of shock... as in tarumbeta bado is illiaring in his kichwa that he is a daddy! let the dude wake up to the reality..and he will be back in the fold... but again enyewe..... that dude... kuna vile he may have bounced 4 good..
ReplyDeletethe good news that she is not thinking of abortion ...cuz abortion is the worst thing in this dunia
Dude is 32!Gish, ur pal is better off without him in the long run if he can still be 'confused' about such things @ his age!! I've seen 22 yr old men handle situations better. This says alot about the guy's character as a whole- nothing good thou!
ReplyDeleteHnH, people still do and there is alot of weak men out there.I think its up to the women to watch your backs.
ReplyDeleteKip, the dude has absconded he is not in shock at least with shock he couldn't sever the ties.Abortion, i tell you desperate times drive people to do some things.
Wanja,I think so too better count your losses and figure the way forward. Sadly hindsight is 20/20.
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ReplyDeleteYes those men are giving us bad names. I have to say that probably he was sincerely confused just as the gal might have been. Lakini you don’t tell someone to ‘sort themselves out’, she didn’t get pregnant by herself!
ReplyDeleteits how I can't comment on th epoem! I normally don't like poetry but that poem just captured EXACTLY what am feeling. Can I pirate it?
ReplyDeleteShame on the jamaa for absconding his duties.
ReplyDeleteNice poem above
ReplyDeleteif I was to be honest. .. the major reason i jipata In this brog/mblog/plok is becuase of that picture on the ka left of the blog............ lol am sure thaoo jamaas do the same.....
ReplyDeletea girls worst fear....
ReplyDeletethat poem above speaks volumes to where i feel i am now...
maybe out of 32 comments, i am slow as a kite. Did he ask her to get an abortion ama was semaing its ur own shida?
ReplyDeletehey...Great poem!!!
ReplyDelete3N,he seems to have forgotten that small act.
ReplyDeleteEgm,i hope he comes round soon or he will really miss out.
Prettylyf, thanks.
Kip,tuonane kando LOL
CrankyPutz,sadly happens too often.am glad it spoke to you.
Udi,he was claimed that is her problem.
Maragand, thanks.
Tough situation! But they both need take responsibility for their actions. What is the guy even confused about?
ReplyDeleteDAYUMM! first that poem is deadly...eh, mr hot lips hapo burning mpaka skin...
ReplyDeleteas for that 32 year old...a kwende huko. confusion his dick.
bu yea, it's sad, it will continue happening...but it shocks and saddens when them guys are old like that...bana...
thata an awesome poem...
ReplyDeleteAs 4 men who deny and start asking kwani u were sleeping around n he was the hammer pounding the nail...shame on them!!
bDude is 32 and feeling young and invincible, loving them and leaving them? Having a child isn't just about the responsibility it is about the ties to another human being...I doubt most guys walk away because of the support bit, it's the human connection thing they don't want...
ReplyDeleteHe thinks he'll be young and carefree forever? Wait till he's older, and (hopefully) alone: knowing he has a child out there whose life he'll never be part of. So many men of my generation (in their '30s) have done this...regret is just around the corner.
aki that is mean - ati sort yourself? haiya kwani that day he was chewing her raw what was he thinking? some dudes?!
ReplyDeleteyaaaaaaaaaani I'm bila words...
ReplyDeleteI think that though easier said than done, she should pick her pieces and move on. Whether she decides to keep the baby from now on is her sole decision...and she should carry said decision with her head held high!
Why is there no comment box on the last post. Well, maybe things happen for a reason...you never can tell. Be strong. One!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for keeping me in your thoughts during the hurricane and for the comments. I noticed you added me to you blog list, so i'll return the favour and also so I can visit your blog.
ReplyDeleteso what finally cut.. did mjomba tokea with his makendes ama izz billaz?
ReplyDeleteHmm, see that's the hurtful thing cos if your girl decides to have the baby, he can come thru 4 years later and decide that he's ready to be a father. She doesn't get that luxury.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, I've been told my dad was the same way...he didn't want to have me. But since he raised me singlehandedly from 18 months upwards, I'd say he made up for it. LOL.
Haki sweetie. Me. I don't get it. Haki I don't. Fuglees, fuglees. You remember we had this conversation a while ago and decided THEY, they have a virus. An irresponsibility virus. Where does a man get off thinking he has the luxury to be confused, or whatever other thing he's feeling. The child ish here, dammit! It cannot go back until you decide to be unconfused. Urgh...I'M MAD.
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