23 August 2012

Little Things

Its the little things in the relationship that make it worth it. I just got home from a celebration with my MBA class of end of school.Funny how the first person i wanted to call and tell that school is over is my ex-boyfriend. Somehow that word still doesn't suit him i feel like there should be more words to explain what used to be. There are several things that i miss abut about being in a relationship:-

  • That hug that you get that requires a moment on both parties that makes you know someone has your back.
  • The rolling over in bed and feeling someone next to you then you snuggle up to them
  • The kisses the touch that knowing feeling. 
  • The ability to explain situations by referring to previous information such as you know how X is?
  • The conversations where anything and everything is acceptable.
  • That satisfaction or sense of feeling that he might be the one
  • The chance to take care of someone 
  • The making plans and dreaming of the possibilities together
  • The pride of introducing another as yours.
It ridiculous how everything just fades away and there is so so much that is left unanswered. As a good friend prayed" Lord if he is not mine let me not see him and let him not see me". My heart is shattered into so many pieces such that i don't know how to put them together. I don't know how to  start don't again, i dunno how to trust again, i just don't know how to find love again. 

I have been here before and i should know how to do this if only i could stop crying then we might have progress, If only i had the balls to tell the people who ask after us that there is no us anymore. If only there was a way to never have met you or fall in love in with you then i might have a chance at believing in love and forever. Maybe believe that all things works out for my good and that i will find love again. If only there was a way to mute the moans of the neighbor's girlfriend upstairs that remind me that am all by myself. If only there was a way of dreaming of the future and the man i see in future is not you. If only there was a way to even think of getting laid by someone else and controlling how fast my knees snap shut at the thought of another man. 
 If only there was another way to tell my dad that we are no longer together? If only i could get myself to forgive you and look past this?

Way too many what ifs and possibilities. Yet life goes on regardless.

Sucks that we almost had it all then you screwed it up.


  1. Congrats on finishing school!

    As for the rest of your post... pole sana. I love that prayer and my mum usually prays the same thing for us "Lord if that man is not meant for her let him go very far away." Heartbreak is one of the worst things ever..but looking forward to the day your heart is mended..or when it doesn't hurt so bad.

  2. Congratulations girl! *Celebrating with you*
    I don't know what to say about the relationship, save for the cliche "it gets better with time". It really does. My mother likes to say, a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage, so don't feel bad about letting family know about the break up.

  3. @Val, thank you, waiting till my hear is mended.By the way my mum says the same words.

    @Kellie Thank you so glad to get done, now to make that money. *hugs* This too shall pass.

  4. So Followed your comment on my blog to here!!

    And love, the bleeding does stop. Ride the wave, it's what I am learning to. When the tears come, cry till the tears can flow no more. Then wipe them and smile.

    Then one day , You will look back and love that girl who rose, like the phoenix, from the ashes.

  5. @darkangel karibu to my space. On my knees trying to get to my feet.

  6. i also followed your comment on my blog to this post. Wow wow...i am amazed because only last year did i get over heartbreak. It is painful as hell and while you might not see the end..it will end and what follows is a journey where you discover yourself.
    You remind yourself of who you one were and slowly begin to accept it. Once you are through with that phase, be ready to mingle. There are too many good men out there...and you will have experience :)

    Now I have been dating the most amazing man...I keep kicking myself for not having left earlier.