Work In Progress

Do you feel at times like you are under construction? Get to that point where you feel like your life is being renovated? Lately, that's whati have been feeling. I have alot of things goingon inmylife right now. Iam at that poing where am letting go of alot of unstatisfactory and superficial relationships. The kind that i have put up with for fear of hurting other people. Iam that point where am redifinig myself.Who am i, what do i want out of life and why, what do i treasure, what are my successes and failures,where have i been, where am i now and where am i headed and what am i doing towards getting there?
This comes with close scrutiny, planning,setting and reviewing goals that i have set.It also come with reviewing my successes and failures, standards and expectations, gauging and reviewing my life. Looking and trying to understand the lessons i have learnt over time. Reviewing and establishing boundaries, setting and laying groung rules as they say rules help in order, a few dos and dont's for me as well as for others. Realizing how far i can go,when to stay and fight and when to walk away.
Reexamining my spiritual life with regrds to God and church, my participation and roles both play in my life. My physical which has prompted me to start eating healthy and start jogging.My social life, the relationships with family,friends. Especially friends since some friends are for a reason, others a season and others a lifetime now am working on the classification. My emotional and psychological, sorting out all the past hurts, losses, breakups and all other drama that i have at times chosen to ignore hoping that it wil sort itself out, or go away or time will heal. Financially, have gotten a better job thank God , quit dependig on others, investing among other things. Intellectually looking forward to improve self, forever a student, take some language classes, my masters next year and God willing call me Dr. Gishungwa by 30 i believe. Having moved out to live alone after living with friends for a long time truly alot of work, gets lonely at times but am blessed with a good friends.
See all this started with the looming of my birthday, the joys yet the au contraire to popular belief is the realization that i wont be 18 till i die, then again guess its the winds of change.
They say change is as good as rest . With the under construction sign up, my protective gear on am off to embark on this daunting yet necessary task. most grateful that i've got the greatest of all contractors on site... The Almighty God and creator.

In The Name of Love

The things we do in the name of love. Am not passing judgment over what is right or wrong am just musing over the things that we at times do in this great name. See most of the time the opinion of others doesn’t count we know what we know and that is more than good enough for us. I came p with the following: -
Quit a habit that the other doesn’t approve or like e.g. drinking alcohol or smoking
Start a habit that the other does e.g. the above
Stop hanging out with your crew or friends
Change our dressing and appearances
Participate in past times that we don’t enjoy e.g. watching soccer
Avoid airing opinion that oppose that of the other
Liar Liar pants on fire, telling what the other would rather hear than the truth.
Disbelief vibe about partner from others
Deny ad make excuses for other ‘s wrongs
Get abused and still stay.
Give access to your finances, house etc.
Cancel your plans to do stuff with other.
Move in and play the wife.
Get Jealous, insecure, paranoid and obsess over nothing.
Steal the phone and read the SMS
Calls up those you think are potentials to inform them that you own him.
Spend all your time together
Have unprotected sex coz he wont use protection, it makes him uncomfortable boo hoo
Believe that he will leave the other ad marry you
Change religion/beliefs/principles
Lose or gain weight
Quit work and move to another part of the world or country
Have a baby/get pregnant to tie him/her to you
Spend more that you ca afford so as to impress them

These are some of the ones I came up wit. So what you have done I the name of love?