8 January 2006

A Sister's Poem and a Brother's Response

Do you qualify to be the man I need you to be?
Will you be able to recognize the things you
need to see?
Will you be able to understand, that
I'm a good woman and in my life I need a good man?
Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to fertilize my unproduced seeds?
Can you fulfill, as I can, all of our needs?
Can you put me in my place if you see I am slippin?
Can you talk to me, wholeheartedly, not constantly trippin??
Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to be called all mine?
Can you leave the other women and temptations
Can you come to me with your problems and
not wait until it's too late?
Can you stand up and admit if you made a mistake?
Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to be the honest ebony man I
would want you to be?
Would you be able to look me in my eyes and
admit your feelings to me?
Could you take me in your arms and make love to
me all night long?
Can you be sensitive and still be strong?

Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to be my friend as well as my
Can you put our love before any other?
Can you cherish me as if I were Diamonds &
Can you make me feel like I'm the last
woman you'll ever hold?
Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to be called a good man?
If I have doubts can you reassure me and understand?
Can your love intoxicate me as if I were High?
To be in my life, I need to know,


The Brother's Response:

You ask, do I qualify.
Can I fulfill your needs and become the man you need me to be?
My sister, are you prepared for what you've asked for?
Can you handle the responsibility?

Can you accept that, by GOD, I am the chosen one,
the authority, the comforter, and the head?
Will you submit and willingly follow my path?
Or will you fight with me instead?

If I am your King, will you treat me as such?
Will I get the best of your beauty and poise?
Or will I be subjected to an appearance
neglected, and checked with some serious noise?
When I talk, will you listen?
I mean whole heartedly and feel me?
Or will you rush me just to make your point too?
Can I be the man at all times?
Even when it hurts?
Or is it just when it's convenient for you?

Can you love me for me, and not who you wish I could be?
Will you see the strong Black Man within?
Or will you always remind me of the all

the past brothers behind me and make me pay for their sins?

If I don't send you flowers the day your co-worker
received some, will you know that I love you still?
Or will my good name be uttered along with those other doggish brothers?
Will you question if my commitment is real?

Will you be patient and teach me to understand you,
and allow my knowledge of your needs to grow?
Or will you shut me out when I ask, Baby
what's wrong?
Or will you respond with, "Well a REAL man would know!"

When we first met, what was it that caught your
eye? Was it my mind, my heart, my personality?
Or was it my suit, or my job, or do you love
what I drive, instead of what's driving me?

Yes I can, and I will,
make love to you from midnight to the dawning of the sun.
But, if I tell you I'm tired, will you trust
I'm sincere or believe that there must be another one?
My sister, I love you and my heart can be yours.
No woman could lead me astray.
But like you, I have needs, so I beg of you,
please, in this love thang meet me half way.

In life's tough times I'll hold you,
in the rough times I'll mold you;
your simplest wish will be my command.
My life is yours if need be.

Yes you can fully bleed me,
and when hell comes, in your place, I'll stand.

A good relationship is a powerful institution,
that must be built on a foundation of two.
So to answer your question,
YES sister, I do qualify.

Now, more importantly.....! Do you


  1. I'm first.
    Thats powerful.Hope you are okey.
    Nice post

  2. Great Post Ki-orange.
    Very powerful

  3. Hi Gishungwa, my first time here.. I loved the poem especially the mans response and also loved the pictures

  4. Yes I do qualify, and I think you do too brother

  5. Wow! Me i like and qualify too!

  6. Qualify & have always qualified without much of a problem.

    Very nice poems from both. Something we all need to read & internalise.

  7. Wow, deep. I like.

    I'd like to think I qualify.

  8. i must admit this is not my own work, i got this on mail and i thought it was just the one. it asks the very core of relating...
    do i qualify iam working on it and pray he does too...
    thank you all for passing by my place drinks are on me next round....

  9. eh its deep totally..im just afraid if there is a part 3 where now the dude is askin if she qualifies?

  10. Deep's the word. I admit the issues protrayed by the poem are real.

    Am blown away.
    Always nice 2 read ur posts.

  11. Wonderful poem!A good change from the usual man hating drivel that holds all men responsible for what is wrong with the world today.
    I think more people ought to be asking themselves those questions

  12. Powerful one there... Nice pics too..

  13. Great POST and visuals. Well put together.

    And to answer in case I forget - I DO!!

  14. That was mang'a! I mean that in a good way.

  15. Now that's deep! I certainly qualify. Yes ma'am, I DO!

  16. Could you please update my dear Orangey.

    Hanging loose like a loose tooth waiting...

  17. Oh wow that's the only word I can think of just wow and I love the art so much. I also love the way it began and the way it poses to either side of a duo to mind the other's needs.

  18. WOW!. That's all I can say. The poem the pictures are just great! I was googling something and that is how I found you. I am a member of the same blogger. I was wondering if you would mind if I added a link to your blog from mine.

  19. i'm inlove with your work...

  20. I am glad you all like my poem. I wrote it several years ago and love when people display it on their sites. kepp promoting it, I want everyone to read it! Thanks KEMA!

  21. heyyyyyyyy im momo well loved the poem especially the mans response if only men were all the same i think thant good well i also invite friends to my email adress